28 things I've learned in 28 years.

It's that time of the year again. Summer has just begun and we are halfway through the year. Oh yeah, and it's my birthday or something, idk. No but really, the older I've gotten the harder birthdays are to deal with. Not to make a fun day pessimistic, that's not my intention, it's just that some people love getting older but I am not one of them. Maybe it is because I am still seeking fulfillment – I'm not satisfied with my life yet so I am not ready to embrace what a birthday really signifies.

That being said, I still recognize that a birthday is important and that it's a moment when you can sit back eat pancakes all day, watch your favorite movies, and reflect on just how much you have (hopefully) accomplished in you life thus far. So (read the next line with intense sarcasm) since I have lived a magical 28 years, I thought I would reflect with a listicle for you all to share my infinite wisdom (my eyes rolled so far back in my head I could see my spine). Haha here we go.

  1. SAVE YOUR MONEY. For the love of god save your money. Trust me, when you get to a point in your life that you want to do something either for a living you'll need a nest egg. I didn't do that...hahahaha...ugh. I've had a job since I was 13 years old and I spent it almost as fast as I've made it. Well that is until the college years, then things got a TON more expensive and money was ….scarce haha.
  2. Never discourage someone else from trying something new. Don't tell your friends to not explore their interests. Do NOT tell your children they aren't capable of amazing things. Do NOT tell a student they will never amount to anything. Words have more weight than you can even imagine. Never in good conscious be the reason the next Mozart doesn't play the piano. It may take years of practice, but who knows what can happen? Sure, not everyone will be successful at the thing they want to try, but it's their natural-born right to try.
  3. Mental health is equally important as physical health. Take care of your mind and emotions as much as, if not more than you take care of your body. You deserve to be happy and you deserve the chance to achieve that. Seek help if you need it. In previous generations they swept it under the carpet, but for my generation and younger this isn't possible, it's unbearable. Embrace your problems and learn to combat them head on with out fear.
  4. LEARN CURSIVE HANDWRITING. It's helpful and beautiful. Not everything needs to be shorthand.
  5. Online tutorials save lives. Hahaha no but seriously. YouTube tutorials have taught me more about real life situations than 99% of my schooling ever has. I've learned how to fix, build, and craft all kinds of things from watching videos about it. School, while incredibly important, doesn't exactly teach you how to “adult,” but YouTube will. Haha.
  6. Learn a second language. Even on a basic level it just helps with broadening your view of the world and your patience for those around you whom are trying to learn your language.
  7. Engage people in intelligent dialogue. I know in today's time it's all about SHOUTING YOUR OPINION THE LOUDEST AND F**K ANYONE WHO THINKS DIFFERENTLY AND THAT PERSON IS THE WORST PERSON BECAUSE THEY DON'T THINK THIS THING I THINK AND I AM KIND OF PICKING A SMALL DETAIL OUT IN ORDER TO MAKE THEM LOOK BAD PLEASE FOLLOW MY TWITTER. Painful to read that, wasn't it? People have forgotten what discussion and debate is. It's not shouting at another, it's listening to a person's perspective, acknowledging it politely, and then presenting counter points that target their points but doesn't attack the person directly. In the end it's not about right and wrong, those two things are different for everyone so why bother fighting on it. It's about all sides, and I use “all” instead of “both” because there are more than two sides to any topic, coming together to create a cohesive understanding and direction that betters all parties involved. Agreeing to disagree is still a better resolution than tearing someone else down because they believe differently than you.
  8. It's okay to not want to have a child. It's okay to not be able to have a child. It's not okay to talk down to someone who has made this decision or is in this scenario.
  9. It is important to learn the difference between “than” and “then.” LEARN IT. :D
  10. Giving up isn't necessarily a bad thing. Giving up can be a healthier option than sticking with something. It depends on the situation.
  11. It's not the end of the world if the dog barks, gets on the couch, steals a piece of food, or has an accident. It can be annoying as F***, but it's not the end of the world.
  12. TIRES ARE EXPENSIVE. Holy crap no one tells you that in the beginning. TIRES ARE INSANELY EXPENSIVE.
  13. She's (or he's) cute. Talk to her. Even if it's just “hello.”
  14. Being “Friendzoned” is not a bad thing. It just means you have another friend and you're lucky. Get over it.
  15. Artists deserve to be paid for their work. This is non-negotiable. (slipped that one in just because haha)
  16. Walls can be patched and painted. They're meant to take some wear and tear. Take a deep breath, you can tackle the project! ** Jon this does not apply to you and your love of hammering nails into the wall. Seriously kid, command strips only for you.**
  17. Everybody gets zits. Even 90 year old people.
  18. Scars can be sexy and cool. Every scar has a story, even if it's as dumb as “I kicked the dishwasher.”
  19. Laughing in times of great pain and sadness is important. It's how we cope. It's how we temporarily escape to a better place. It provides us we reassurance that we can and we will get through it.
  20. Bees aren't out to get you. Bees are awesome. Wasps are assholes.
  21. Dogs are better than cats. Sorry.
  22. No country is better or worse than another. The positives and negatives are different. That's it.
  23. “American” does NOT mean “white.” “Insert faith of choice” does NOT mean foreigner.
  24. “Pro” something does NOT mean “anti” something else.
  25. “Driver picks the music, shotgun shuts his cake-hole” - 1,000,000 bonus points if you get that reference.
  26. No one ever really leaves high school. Most “career” work places are exactly like high school so find or create a work space that is better than that. People can be petty so just take a deep breath and subtweet them on Twitter.
  27. Puppy breath is literally the best worst smell on the planet. Hands down.
  28. You should totally pledge to Stephen Miller's Kickstarter web-series film project that will be launching next month.